There’s a new season of Married at First Sight. Though I don’t really believe in this concept, it’s interesting to see how people respond. Some are open and try to make it work and some are stubborn and contrary. Often, you see exactly why the person wasn’t able to find a spouse on their own.
One of the women calls herself “Queen Christine” – That tells you she’s spoiled and self-centered. It’s hard for people like that to compromise and marriage takes a lot of compromise.
Another man, tall, good-looking black man is sitting on the couch next to his mother. Their arms and hands are intertwined like they’re lovers. You are not supposed to sit next to a parent this way. It’s troubling to watch. The psychologist took the guy aside and spoke to him about it and he promised them that he would talk to his mom about backing off. So he did but she said, “No! You’re my son and I’m going to stay as involved as I want to.”
So the show’s producers decided NOT to match him with anyone. He already has a lover and she ain’t going away anytime soon. Yuk!
The other couples – if you watch them some, you can see why they couldn’t find a spouse on their own. Many have unrealistic expectations. They think they have to wait to find the “Perfect” man or woman. The problem is that YOU are not perfect. So if you DO happen to find that one perfect person on the entire planet, they will not want you because you’re not perfect.
I don’t believe that young people today realize that you just have to find someone with similar values as you have, then make a commitment to each other and then spend the rest of your lives keeping that commitment. You change, make compromises – you can’t have your way all the time.
Probably, due to all those chick flicks where guy meets girl etc, young people today think that’s real life. Women think they’ll be walking down the sidewalk one day and Hugh Grant will stop to say hello. They’ll have a funny up and down courtship, then go away to Paris, get married and live happily ever after.
TV isn’t real. Movies aren’t real. They’re just meant to entertain us. They’re usually NOT a good representation of real life. Marriage takes way more work than most people are willing to put into it.
At the first sign of a problem, couples think, “Oh no! I’ve made a terrible mistake. This must not be my soul-mate. So I’m leaving.”
Writers of fiction created the whole idea of a “Soul-Mate” – it sounds very romantic, but again it’s unrealistic. If you go into marriage thinking that way, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
In most cases, the couples have a week of happiness, then the reality of everyday life creeps in. They can’t have healthy discussions about differences. They expect too much perfection from each other. They demand more than they’re willing to give.
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